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Inner Thoughts: Reclaim Your Power

“You Attract Your Dominant Thoughts” –Rhonda Bryne

Reclaim Your Power

Periodically, I like to dust off old journals.  I find that I typically uncover these journals at times that seem to be divinely orchestrated (not by coincidence).  I find these journals in moments I need to remind myself I am on the right path. I find these journals in moments I need to remind myself that all things are working together for my good. I find these journals in moments I am seeking more of God’s presence in my life. I find these journals when I feel down and am seeking encouragement to keep pushing through. I am reminded of hope, faith, and love when I read my inner thoughts. I remind myself to never lose faith. I remind myself that I have the ability to determine how I perceive every moment of my life. I reclaim my power.

Inner Thoughts

When I go back and read my inner thoughts from previous months or years, I feel both empowered and sometimes even disappointed.  I find myself feeling empowered when I see goals that I had written down come to pass.  I feel empowered when I revisit inspirational quotes, excerpts from books, and insightful words I recalled from conversations with others.  I feel disappointed when I see a goal and think to myself “well that never happened.”

When I find myself feeling disappointment, I chose to interrupt the negative self-talk by seeing the present moment as an opportunity to reconnect with my deepest desires.  I get to decide if I still want what I thought I wanted or see how much I have changed sense the moment in which I first wrote the words (thoughts) thrown across the page. I am reminded of the words of K.T. Witten which states “your dream doesn’t have an expiration date. Take a deep breath and try again.” This is reassurance that I can and will get there if I never give up on what matters most.

Something to consider:

Do you journal?  Do you go back and read your thoughts? What do they reveal?

What inner visions do you want to reclaim?

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What matters most?

What matters most?

There was once a time that I told myself the story I can’t do this because……  I had made up my mind that the challenges I was presented with were greater than my ability to choose to have something work out even if it didn’t look exactly the way I envisioned.  I told myself I couldn’t save money because I needed to make more.  I told myself I couldn’t eat better because I didn’t have time to meal prep. I told myself I couldn’t work out because I work too many hours. I told myself all the things I could not do because…..

When I think about the stories I tell myself, it  is true that there are many factors that create barriers between me and my ideal life; however, I decided to write down all the goals that I want to accomplish in five areas of my life and then work towards prioritizing some aspect of each goal.  The areas of life that I focus on are:

  • Faith
  • Family
  • Finances
  • Fitness
  • Fulfillment

I chose these areas because these are the parts of my life in which I crave balance.

My faith is the foundation for how I chose to navigate in the world. My faith in God allows me to have faith in what God can do for me and through me as well as the power I have to co-create the life I’ve always wanted.

My family is important to me because I am connected to their well-being and we were born into a connection called kinship and I choose to honor that connection.

My finances are the gateway to freedom and choice. When my finances are in order I get more freedom to explore options that I might not have otherwise.

My fitness is tied to my state of health and well-being.  I want to focus on my fitness in order to honor my body and live a healthier life. Not to mention, I also want to look good in what I wear and feel good about my body.

Lastly, my fulfillment is tied to my faith, family, finances, and fitness (health), but it is also tied to my sense of purpose and what I feel like I am put on this earth to do. I am always asking myself what matters most to me in order to pursue it.

There are times in which I feel like I am living my life neglecting what matters to me the most.  When I experience this feeling I know I am not living in alignment with my values. It is in that moment when I stop to think about what is working for me and what is not. Then, I think about what I can choose to do differently to create a different result.

What are the areas in your life that you want to prioritize?

Why are these areas meaningful to you?

What can you do each week to prioritize what matters most to you?

What stories have you been telling yourself that need to be rewritten?

Something to consider:

At the end or beginning of each week plan for the week ahead and write down one goal or item you want to prioritize that is in alignment with the areas of your life that matter most to you.  For example, one goal may be to take at least one to two fitness classes per week or prep at least two meals for the week. Adding this goal to your  agenda or checklist for the week can help you see a tangible result and change the narrative around what you are able to do.  So often we live our lives doing the things we feel that we have to do without prioritizing the things we get to do that bring us fulfillment. The goal is not to reach perfection! The goal is to choose what matters most. Do what matters most!

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Damn, I’m Dope or Am I Good Enough

Damn, I’m Dope  or Am I Good Enough

“Be careful what measure you use to examine your worth.”- Tye

I have never been one to follow people on social media because they are famous, have a title or attract many followers. If I actually admitted how many celebrities I have never heard of until recently the average millennial might be appalled or tickled into a gut wrenching roll on the floor. You know the type of laughter that puts a cramp in your side. Yep, that’s the one!

The desire to not follow others is something I recently thought about. I also acknowledge that it has been something that I have never fully embraced even from a young age when people’s opinion of you “should matter the most”, Right?  Trust me, if I am willing to follow you there must be evidence of some level of authenticity, some connection, or some reason I am gravitating to you in that moment or season of my life.  I have learned that my connections to others is an intentional act and I chose to believe that many of the most meaningful connections and relationships I have developed with others were divinely orchestrated.

Are you honoring your truth or are you just following the hype?

Resisting the Hype

Why am I so resistant to following the crowd? Why am I so resistant to following the trends that EVERYONE subscribes to.  I think one possibility is that I want to live life on my own terms in my own way, not looking through a window into a life that I know nothing about or have no personal connection to.  There is a saying that says “everything that glitters ain’t gold.”  Now don’t misunderstand me. I do not think that having many followers, fame, or influence is inherently bad. However, I am cautious of the effects that following others to observe their lives without context can do to one’s own personal self-esteem, growth and development.

It’s all about balancing our perspectives and expectations for what life should look like for us in any given moment.  There is such a thing called delayed gratification which means we don’t always get what we want when we want it. Looking too closely at what others have and comparing it to your own life is not healthy and leaves little room for you to embrace the idea that everything you have is enough and when you are ready for something new, you will receive it.

I believe in the idea that life is a journey that we are on that teaches us, grows us, and calls us towards greater Wisdom.   It is our responsibility to tune ourselves into our Highest Selves to know when to look to others for guidance and inspiration or when to turn inward and deal with matters of the heart. It’s all a balancing act. 

Social Media Frenzy

Let’s be honest, I have found myself weighing in on the lives of other people with absolutely no context what so ever; trying to figure out why she wore that dress, why he said that, or whose political agenda aligns with my own.  That’s all well and good, but when I take a step back it added no value to my life and sometimes diminishes another person’s existence.  The truth is we are all growing along different lines.  I want to commit to saving my “criticisms”, feedback, and even opinions of others by exchanging criticisms and opinions with meaningful, intentional conversations that have potential to shift hearts and minds in a positive direction for a greater good.

Damn, I’m Dope or Am I Good Enough

I find myself battling between two ways of thinking.   At times I’m like, “Damn, I’m dope” and then there are other times in which I question whether or not I am good enough.   I have been told I am naturally a confident person.  This is intimidating for some and has sent me on a downward spiral into the land of doubting myself.  Why does my confidence offend others? How can I love me without affecting others ability to see value within themselves?

This isn’t law, but I am learning to balance humility with confidence. I know that I’m dope but where do I have room to grow? There is always room for growth. My newest (quest)ion to explore is how can I use the journeys of others to push me to be a better me without comparing my life to theirs or making others feel less than they are ?

My life is my life. Your life is your life. Live your life! Be Dope!

Something to think about

Who or what are you allowing to influence your self-worth?

Who do you look up to? How do they inspire you to be a better you?

Are there images, people, shows, music that lead you to question your worth?

What are the narratives you are telling yourself?

 

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What Are You Pretending Not To Know?

What Are You Pretending Not to Know?

Many of my most recent conversations have been about finding the path where my passion meets my purpose.  This comes with asking tough questions: Am I where I need to be? Is it time for a transition? Am I in a place or position due to scarcity (i.e. money over mission or the belief that I will never have or be enough) or am I choosing the path to which I feel most called to which is signified by a strong urge toward a particular way of life or career.

Turning Outwards for the Answers That Lie Within

The conversations I find myself having  over and over with myself  and others often begin with being frustrated about working long hours, not having time for myself,  balancing family life amongst work related responsibilities , finances, friendships, sleep, and  the need to experience more FREEDOM. The list goes on.

When I talk to my closest friends many tell me that I help them see things in a different light or believe in their ability to accomplish their goals in spite of perceived obstacles or limitations. For some, they even feel compelled to develop a deeper connection to God when I share aspects of my faith journey and how my faith in God gives me a sense of purpose and inner peace.

While finding myself on a quest to figure it all out, my thoughts are overtaken by the desire to find a new job, take a new trip, or move to a new city. However, the hardest pill I have recently had to swallow is acknowledging my tendency to use my quest for something new as a way to mask the idea that I have never fully manifested what I feel I have been placed on this earth to do.  Or I am withholding by choosing with whom or in what context I will be vulnerable and authentic. I am withholding when I rob myself of the opportunity to live out the fullest expression of who I am; judging myself in the backdrop of perceived expectations projected onto me.

Why Are You Hiding?

Despite knowing that there is more for me to share with the world, I still continue to walk around pretending not to know; pretending not to know the power that lies within me. Pretending not to know that the world needs to be filled with messages of hope, faith and love all of which I have a deep conviction to share.

Several months ago, I stood on the stoop of a friend’s house sharing what life is teaching me.  The more we engaged in conversation the more I felt a sense of joy and fulfillment.  She was like “Wow, Tye, you have so much insight to offer! Why are you hiding?” In that moment, I thought to myself, “Why am I hiding?  Why AM I HIDING?”

Why do I keep pretending not to know that I have the ability to impact lives through my words. Why do I keep pretending not to know that my vocation is tied to the fabric of who I am as a person? I am a teacher and I cultivate environments conducive to learning. I am a leader with an ability to influence others. I am a wisdom seeker that holds the idea that I can have an overcomer’s mentality in every area of my life without labeling my experiences as being good or bad, but rather I can choose to reflect on what I have learned from each experience.  I am a communicator that can communicate with the intent of others getting it.

In that moment I realized that me pretending not to know continued to rob me of opportunities to share information that could empower someone or help shift their thinking in a way that could produce a ripple effect in their lives and their ability to see value in what they can bring to others. Me pretending not to know keeps me fleeing what I know I am called to do, which is provide spiritual direction and guidance by coaching people through challenging situations. I miss the opportunity to help people see that they have the power to produce any positive outcome in their life by taking responsibility of how they perceive everything in their life.

At some point , I validated the “hiding” through questioning  my self-worth or whether or not my story mattered when it came to helping other people navigate the ups and downs in life.  My hiding led me to continue to withhold my voice.  My hiding was validated every time I judged that the significance of my story couldn’t exist when someone else’s is better, more polished, or in some instances more traumatic therefore, they mattered and their story was more substantive.

Am I the only person who thinks this way?

Resistance: Questions That Need Answers

For quite some time I have wandered around pretending not to know what I really want rather than admitting to myself that there are underlying narratives that I allow to live in my heart and mind.

I continue to remain in the question, “Why am I hiding?”  I have committed to being okay with not having  THE ANSWER, but instead I chose to continue going on a quest of answering by acknowledging what comes up for me when I examine my inner thoughts.

I continue to ask:

What underlying narratives am I telling myself?

Rewriting the Narrative

What narratives need to be re-written?  I am remaining in the (QUEST)ion.  Again, I am not looking to have the answer but I am open to answering.  This means I chose to acknowledge my experience in any given moment by paying attention to what I am feeling in that moment, what I am experiencing in that moment, the memories that arise in that moment, the physiological responses that are present in my body in that moment and then let go of any narratives that are no longer serving me in that moment.

I once heard that our gifts and talents are the answer to the world’s greatest need.  I truly believe every being is endowed with ENERGY that is designed to bring healing to the world when we use our talents, gifts, and resources for the greater good.  I refuse to hide any longer. It’s time to author something new.

Something to Consider

What are you pretending not to know?

Are you hiding? If so, from what? How are you hiding?

What narrative could you chose to shift to author something new?

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The Hole: A Place of Clarity

Finding Balance Within

Have you ever just felt all over the place? I am sure you are reading this question and asking yourself, what kind of question is that?  Because the answer for a lot of people is a resounding HELL YES!  I think the question that I really want to know the answer to is how can I live in a place of peace or self-assuredness? How can I truly live a life of focus, a life of clarity and a life that has a clear sense of purpose?  Truth be told, I don’t fully know how to live in this space all of the time without wavering. However, I am going to go out on a limb and speculate based on my own experience what is required to have clarity in life.  From my own experience, I am learning to seek clarity over and over in order to reside in a place of peace. I feel confident in saying that peace lies within us and if we don’t take the time to interface with God’s divine nature within us we allow external factors to define  us versus seeing God’s divine in us.

Soul Searching

When I think back to the few times in my life and I literally mean FEW times in my life when I have felt the most clarity, it was the times when I literally carved out time to spend with myself.   Every night, I could not close my eyes without writing in my journal, praying, and paying attention to my thoughts.  Not only did I take time every day to listen to my own thoughts, I also set aside time each week in which I hung out with myself.  I craved this time. During this time I did what some may consider to be “deep” soul searching.  I learned that sometimes looking into the depths of your own shadows is the place where you find your deepest sense of purpose.  For me, there were times when a desire or longing for something greater than where I currently found myself came to mind and I began to create an inner vision for what was possible for me.  In these moments of solitude, I allowed my mind to envision whatever it desired. I could see myself living out my deepest desires without fear of judgment or doubts that I would ever see any of these visions come to pass.  In these moments of solitude I also saw the shadows that were cast over my dreams, the fears, the doubts, and the perceived limitations.  I learned to navigate through the dark place, the shadows, and the doubts in order to meditate on possibilities.  I learned that my growth and development was not the absence of lack, pain or suffering; however, I had the potential to determine how I perceived every unpleasant moment in my life.  I get to decide if the dark times would be a catalyst for success or would it be a hindrance and an excuse for why I act and behave in a way that is counter intuitive to my Highest Self.

New Understandings

Recently as I was listening to Michelle Obama’s top selling book Becoming, she shared about a time in which Barack took a sabbatical of sorts and his mother rented a little cottage for him in Indonesia so that he could set aside time to finish his book Dreams From My Father.  Michelle also shared how she wasn’t really happy about it.   As I heard this story a light bulb went off and I thought to myself, that’s it! That’s the missing peace (piece).   Sometimes we have to go into the hole to find clarity.  The hole is a metaphor for a place of solitude, free from distraction, to get clear and hear our own thoughts. Sometimes we have to go onto the mountain top to experience an uncommon encounter with God and in essence commune with our Highest Selves and other times we are in the cave our hearts and minds looking at all the places we have shielded ourselves from because we are afraid of what we might find and how it will reveal that we aren’t living in our greatest possibilities.  It’s the moment when we separate ourselves from our everyday activities that we find peace.  It is vital to our existence, yet sometime even the people we love and the ones that love us won’t understand it.